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(Closed) Should I divorce my hubby because he NEVER stands up to his family unit?
posted 10 years agone in Married Life
Postal service # 1
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Newbee
- x years agone
My husband SERIOUSLY, seriously thinks something is wrong with me considering he believes every discussion his mother and sister say.They don't like me considering they can't control me– I'one thousand not the puppet they wanted my hubby to marry.
I didn't take a flower girl and he thinks I'm an (buthole) considering I didn't, and he never spoke up nigh it until after– when his mom and sister complained.They peculiarly don't like when my husband leaves their side to stand by mine. That is usually what gets them to fly off the handle, saying I was existence rude by not talking enough when I talked enough, saying I am too stake and wait weird, and just being totally absurd!The list goes on.
I tin can't win. I am under a microscope.
Is this reason enough to divorce? He will always side with them. And family unit functions with them are terrible, his sister is always sending him death glares if he is by my side.
It is sick.
Been going to spousal relationship counseling. He refuses to go. I tin can't stand this anymore, it'southward similar he's under a spell. He truly believes them no matter what absurd thing they cull to complain about. Suddenly I'grand incorrect for all these things I know he would never intendance about otherwise.
Post # three
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Bumble bee
- Miss Orchard
- 10 years ago
- Wedding ceremony: September 2012
Information technology sounds like you have a big trouble and Fiance doesn't want to put work into it to make it better…if you lot aren't happy, then you need to practice something almost, any that may be. I don't think everyone on here tin tell you lot whether divorce is the correct solution, simply I definitely think you have an outcome that needs to be dealt with in some manner. Good luck and keep your head upwards!
Post # 4
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Saccharide Beekeeper
- JiminyCricket
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
Oh no, it sounds similar such a terrible situation. Was it like this earlier the wedding ceremony? If y'all tell him you've considered divorce over information technology, would that convince him to go to counseling?
Postal service # 5
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Saccharide bee
- hisgoosiegirl
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: Jan 1993
If he won't go to counseling and puts his mommy and sissy over his wife, leave him in the dust.I grew up in a house where my dad's parents manipulated him to oblivion and he didn't ever stand upwardly for my mom….y'all practice not want to be in a marriage like this if he is not going to change.
He sounds like a existent peach, criticizing you lot and belittling you. Was he like this before you were married?
Postal service # 6
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Bumble bee
- msfahrenheit
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: Baronial 2011
*Hugs* This is a tough state of affairs. From your mail, it sounds like you two have talked nearly these issues, but he doesn't think there's a problem and won't work on irresolute. Problems like this don't simply pop up out of nowhere, was he like this earlier yous married? Or has anything major happened with family to spark this?
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
- PinkMagnolia
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: Oct 2011
I peradventure wouldn't have married this human, but I don't think it'south cause for a divorce YET.
Your DH and you demand to take some long conversations and he needs to choose between yous two.
Post # 8
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Love bee
- Eva Peron
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Sounds like you know whats best !
Just curious…did y'all find this out after spousal relationship? Or did you merely think in one case you were married the dynamics would change?
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
- Mrs. Mink
- x years ago
- Hymeneals: June 2012 - Pippin Colina Farm & Vineyards
It's a reason to get counseling.
Postal service # ten
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Newbee
- sarahmay85
- 10 years ago
Thank you and then much for writing all…
It took me a while to realize that I am not the trouble, and although people I reached out to for support told me that I was not, I knew for sure subsequently the wedding and epseically after I went to counseling and also spoke to a priest.
Things really got bad surrounding the wedding and after. Before that it was the nitpicky stuff. At present I see for certain just how manipulated he is.
There are other problems that are related to this that I did think would change due to the natural progression that should come with marraige, only that did non happen.
I come here request about this because I go back and forth, back and along most what to do, I am curious virtually how bad just ONE of our problems is and I take to say this i hurts the well-nigh. (another upshot is his mother enmeshment, which like I said is related to this) This issue makes me feel and so lonely and like the world is against me, you know?
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
- mamadingdong
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2018
i'chiliad trying to figure out how you lot got married to this person knowing he would never put you lot first.
i'd kickoff with counseling.
Mail # 12
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856 posts
Busy bee
- MrsPom
- 10 years ago
- Nuptials: April 2012
I went dorsum and read some of the sometime threads y'all've started and YIKES!! This family situation is terrible. I hate to see people divorcing left and right, I think a lot of people throw in the towel too hands and don't work through things anymore. That beingness said… your state of affairs is Non adept and if you don't encounter it changing I would not keep in the marriage. It seems similar you detest his family and they hate you and think about years ahead if you guys decide to have children how awful it will be. This is ane of my favorite quotes and I think it is plumbing equipment for your situation"Life is difficult enough every bit it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with". Good luck to you girly I really do feel for you.
Post # thirteen
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Buzzing bee
- daybyday
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: November 2006
Wow. Well, I can tell you that if my husband behaved this style and didn't acknowledge my feelings/that this is a trouble and continually put his own nuclear family above our own and so yeah, I would divorce hm.
Mail service # 14
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Beloved bee
- mwitter80
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
If he refuses to become to counseling and then file.
Post # 15
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3282 posts
Carbohydrate bee
- hisgoosiegirl
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: January 1993
Do not ever ever ever EVER E'er look your partner to modify (for the better) afterward spousal relationship. If in that location are serious issues that you accept concerns nearly prior to matrimony, MARRIAGE WILL Non Better THEM.
And while information technology sounds similar the husband is being manipulated, he is also a grown homo capable of making his own bad decisions. Which information technology is clear he is doing.
To echo a PP, DO NOT bring children into this environment until this situation is rectified.
Post # xvi
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Buzzing bee
- linguo42
- 10 years agone
- Wedding: February 2011
I would probably come right out with it and say, "Why did you marry me? You clearly don't respect my stance on anything, y'all let your family say any they want virtually me and never stand for me, even when it's things I take no control over. And so why, when you so conspicuously think so much of their stance, did yous marry me when they obviously tin't stand up me? Recollect this: they may have been your family for longer, but you CHOSE me every bit your family. And if you're non going to acknowledge that and treat me with equal respect, simply instead merely keep passing on your mother and sister's ridiculous insults like they're fact, then this is no longer a union and I'm not going to stick around and take the abuse. I signed upwardly for a hubby, not a puppet."
I'm pretty sure he knows to some extent that they manipulate him, and that's why he doesn't desire to get to counseling. I'thou not much for ultimatums but in this case I think yous need to stress to him simply how ready you are to walk abroad. If he still refuses to encounter someone, I'd move out and give yourself some lonely time to figure out how you want to keep. Mayhap he'll come effectually one time he sees yous're serious. If not…then he'southward a spineless idiot who doesn't deserve you.
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